Social Skills Series: Three Coping Skills Techniques For Social Situations

Social skills can be complex for some children. But with these three coping skills, even the most challenging social environments can become less stressful and anxiety-filled.

What Are Coping Skills

Coping skills are behaviors that help a person manage their feelings, thoughts, and memories. Coping can be done in many different ways, though finding the correct method is not always easy. Some examples of coping skills are staying active, practicing relaxation techniques, going out with friends, spending time on hobbies, doing things for others, or even using humor. Coping skills should not be used to ignore problems but rather as a way to help deal with them.

Why coping skills can be used in social situations?

Coping skills are techniques used to manage our emotions and thoughts. They can be used in any case, no matter how odd or uncomfortable the situation. Skills can be as simple as breathing deeply and slowing down your breathing to help fight stress. Other skills include projecting a clear image, befriending somebody in the room, distracting yourself with thoughts of something you’re grateful for, or simply leaving the room.

Tips for children with Autism

It’s important to find safe places where you and your child are comfortable. The more you practice socializing in these situations, the easier it will become. Take a break or cross the room when someone makes you feel uncomfortable. Be sure not to keep socializing if you or your child have a hard time. Remember that avoiding people and places may be necessary when symptoms get overwhelming. It’s essential to know your child’s limits and recognize them before they happen so that they are not pushed too much into an uncomfortable situation.

3 Coping Skills For Social Situations

When we contact other people, we are not just meeting them. We are also meeting our own expectations for how the encounter should go and how we should behave. Knowing this, some have found that it helps plan in place for social situations before they happen. Three coping skills that can help include: (1) relax, (2) be present, and (3) stay grounded. These skills can help parents assess their child’s needs and adjust.

Here’s what a coping plan might look like. Prepare your child for the social situation. Tell your child, “You will be with family and friends at a birthday party. You may have to stay longer than expected. You will play with new toys and friends”. Let your child know what they can do to cope in the social setting if anxious. Have your child repeat after you. “If I get frustrated, you can take a deep breath and relax. I will enjoy myself. I will have fun. I will try to make the best of it. I will pay attention to what’s happening around me and stay focused on enjoying myself. If I need to leave, I can take a break. I will press my feet hard on the floor to feel grounded. When I am ready, I can return to the activity.”


We hope that this article has helped you identify the best coping skills for your situation. The most important thing is to try different techniques. When you find ones that work for you and your child, then follow them regularly to see improvement in coping skills during social settings.

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